I had also thought the same thing, but other people have told me otherwise, and that black is completely okay. The four main wedding types are listed below along with what is appropriate to wear to each type. It depends on the culture, I suppose. I think black can be worn to weddings, but is most appropriate for evening weddings. I wouldn't wear a black shirt to a formal event, but I imagine plenty of people do. Which is a little dated and adds the onus on women to be “competing”. Hell, even the royal weddings have men wearing black suits to it. Very few if any people, who are outside of celebrity culture with unlimited income, expect you to buy a new outfit with every invitation. That said, the venue seems to be more black tie suggested and not black tie required, so the black suit should be fine. This will be easier if your dress code is dressy-casual rather than formal, most formal menswear is dark colored. Honestly pretty much every wedding I’ve been to in the last 5 years had some people wearing black regardless of the time of year. so, it's generally not a great idea to wear these colours to happy occasions like weddings. She is supposed to stick out and be special. At the same time, no one will notice or care if you wear the same trusted dresses as a guest. Bridal party is wearing long black gowns. iamanewyorker. But to not come off as unreasonable, you might have to just stick to more or less informing/hinting that the bride will wear a black wedding dress and then leave it up to the guest's to interpret. You'll see entire bachelorette parties wearing black here in Texas. For a summer wedding, the fabric would be lightweight like silk, chiffon, even a simple elegant linen. In Christian weddings, usually black is acceptable and white is a big no-no. She asked everyone not to wear cream, white, or black. The wedding is in Texas in the spring. Hey all- where are we with the whole wearing black to a wedding thing? I have the perfect dress that I feel confident and beautiful in, but it's black (with black embroidered flowers on the bodice). Weddings are celebratory and light-hearted. Exceptions for all of these can be made of course. For whatever reason, they put on the invites that they wanted the guests to wear certain colors. What was supposed to be my sister's day ended up being dampend a bit by watching the women in black walk around like they were at a wake. 24. 14. In fact, I have worn similar colors to a wedding and, surprisingly, no one mistook me for the bride because she was the bride. After some time I ditched the suit jacket and wore black trousers, white shirt and a tie. And it is rude to wear something to a wedding that makes other guests talk amongst themselves about what you're wearing. Enjoy the wedding, as you are in for an amazing experience. White is funeral wear for chinese, imagine if someone showed up to a western style wedding wearing all black as if it was a funeral Also usually white is only reserved for the bride, and since its their special day, wearing white as a guest may be seen as trying to steal the limelight or trying to make it all about you even though its supposed to be someone elses special day Guests aren’t props, it’s rude to give a dress code based on color typically in NY. I have never thought twice about wearing black to a cocktail or formal event. Groom/smen don't wear black shirts with their black jackets and pants after all. Wear a formal floor-length gown. Beach wedding in the summer - no. aita-wedding12345. And black is generally frowned upon for wedding festivities. Just have fun. It might not be something young people would wear because its a color typically associated with mourning and is the color most people would wear to a funeral. If you don't know them well enough to know the answer to that question, don't wear black. But I guess it’s a cultural/personal preference thing. My wedding dress is 1950's pinup. Wearing such a funereal color implies that you think the event is a tragedy. I always wear black to a wedding. > pants with tie. rachael_bee. We had a perfect wedding, except for one thing, my MIL's freakout when she saw my dress. Reply reply Many people think it's not appropriate for guests (both genders) to wear black to a wedding, as it's a colour usually worn to funerals. Not everyone can afford to buy a new dress for a wedding (some people only have a dress or two in their closet and black is a very versatile Asshole. You just need to wear a floor length dress in a formal cut and fabric (no cotton maxi's for example). Honestly with a color and cut that unique the fabric needs to be exquisite, and this one just unfortunately isn't. They didn’t want her to seem out of place in a hat and sundress. New Yorkers wear it a lot and don’t associate it with funerals. in the end, it's their special day and you don't wanna At first I used to wear a dark suit, white shirt and tie. I've only ever not worn black twice to weddings in ~15 years of going. More casual wedding- no. CassowaryCrow. 5. The style is also a factor for a daytime outdoor wedding. A little black dress with white pearls is classic. My husbands family has a tradition of always Suit with turtle neck at a wedding doesn't say, to me, that you're in the wedding party. Per someone else's comments about suits, in my culture many men do wear black suits, but their outfit is not all black as a black dress may You'll be fine. My first ever custom/made to measure suit and shirt! Add black pantyhose and swap the shoes for non-boots. NTA - bride approves, you're good to go. I’ve heard of asking guests to wear all black in NY but honestly for an outdoors wedding, your in laws are correct. 5-1 size looser than a band that is 3mm-6mm wide. You don't attend. I would ask the bride. Even a solid black dress can be fine if it’s paired with the correct accessories. Men will have difficulty finding appropriate formal clothes that are not black. perpandacular. A summer, afternoon wedding, black would be weird. The Little Black Dress is a fashion go-to for a reason. Even something like navy or burgundy would be better, still dark-ish, but not so serious. It is very common to wear all black dresses to a wedding in the Northeast US - especially an evening wedding. It is a common thing in kerala politics to show black to someone as a sign of disapproval and such incidents make it to the news. Yes, black all the time. Except, there’s 1 festival around the winter solstice, where wearing black is encouraged because it’s colder and black clothes are supposed to help conserve body heat. Evening wedding - yes, but also depends on the season- during summer- not the best idea. The Southeast is very traditional when it comes to events like weddings. That might likely be too unclear still. When I showed up, plenty of men were in khakis or even short sleeve button downs, and one girl/woman was in a black hooded sweatshirt. Its also favored by elderly widows as a result. Most people don’t wear black to funerals anymore unless they are older and feel it’s respectful to wear “mourning clothes”. During fall - yes. It’s widely known that it’s disrespectful, so if you are wearing white at an American wedding, it will be seen as an intentional slight to the bride. [deleted] •. Even black tie would be questionable just because there is a lot of beading etc. White, yes. I’m attending a wedding this December in Miami, FL. That means no boring repp stripes and perhaps avoid solid red or blue power ties to avoid looking like a CEO or politician. Traditionally a black suit is not appropriate for a daytime wedding. "The Black is fine to wear to a wedding in the US. An evening or winter wedding, not so much. Yes. Even wearing white to a wedding is starting to become normal. Of all the requests for guests to wear specific clothing I think this is the most reasonable. Black is the colour of mourning, it has traditional and serious vibes. At a wedding, the groom and ALL the groomsmen and most male guests are wearing black or dark colors. Black is a totally acceptable colour for a wedding, just make sure you don't look like you're attending a funeral. Should be fine. I personally wouldn't. HungrySeaCow. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. I am unsure. I've heard HELLA stories of MIL who wear black specifically to disrespect the wedding because " they're losing their baby ". I have black, red, or blue options but I've already worn the blue one to another family wedding so I have no idea what to do lol I think it really depends on where you are and what time of day the wedding is. And the Queen is hella strict on her clothing. danceydancetime • 8 yr. With casual they can wear linen or khaki in lighter colors that are easier to find. Sadly she forgot to mention you also couldn’t wear a Wedding Dress. ) it is okay to wear the same color as the bridesmaids, but they also suggest asking the bride if you have concerns. SIL showed up in a ‘yellow’ dress…. And that it would be disrespectful to wear black. If the bride doesn't care, or the bridal party is in red or black. Very formal Black tie wedding - yes. Black tie is what I have received in invitations when going to award ceremonies or fundraising galas. It is much more formal than my actual wedding dress, for example so I’d be a little annoyed. That's some amateur shit man. . I'd check into rent the runway - you can buy their dresses secondhand if you want to buy or rent something current. change the shoes for a more dressy ankle boot, the dress looks fine. Reply. Black is perfectly fine to a wedding. I don't know, black dress to a wedding? I think it'd be fine if other people were wearing black but if most are wearing white or lighter colors, you could really steal a whole lot of attention or stand out. Personally I think that since the wedding is not about you, it's probably best to choose something else. If this midi dress outshines the bride, then that’s her fault. Chances are that there will be a lot of standing and photo taking, you need to be at least moderately comfortable. • 13 hr. Personally, I think when you choose an unusual color wedding dress, you can’t be upset when guests wear the same color—especially black, as little black dresses are super common wedding guest attire. I’m just gonna say that I worried a lot about what to wear to a black tie optional wedding. Or if the wedding theme is black tie. I have a nice formal suit blazer. 4. If the choice is between looking like a "grandma" and looking like a "person who doesn't know you're not supposed to wear white to someone else's wedding" or "person who prioritizes her own appearance over the feelings of the Due to a non-traditional choice, black is the new white for our wedding". Not to mention black, while looking good, is kind of a dour color for a wedding. I've been apart of several of them. milva91. When we had gone dress shopping, I invited her and I found my perfect dress. I don't think you need to rule it out just because it (assuming western culture wedding) generally, yes, black is fine, but it can be trickier to pull off without a) looking like you're going to a funeral or b) doing the 'sexy little black dress' thing. Probably 90% of my nice occasion clothes are black. Black tie is formal, and means a tuxedo for a man. Award. I would suggest either asking the bride or picking a different color cause sometimes black at a wedding ( besides a tux ) is considered disrespectful since it's generally a " funeral/mourning " color. Optional additions include white gloves and a tiara if you are a married woman or a bride on her wedding day. my cousin blasted me on social media later saying I excluded all the women from the wedding because my wife was so insecure she couldn't handle another woman's presence at her wedding. If it were the other way around, you had a periwinkle dress and found out the bridesmaids were wearing periwinkle, I might hesitate (although, even then, you could've easily not have known beforehand), but black is such an all-around colour that the bride would have to know people might wear it, especially to an autumnal, black tie event. Love the dress!! Very appropriate for a wedding. I love everything about your look from your dress to your hair to your makeup and to your jewelry. 1. I asked what the dress code were, and she said that she genuinely just wanted her guests to look at their best. So, a thin band that's a size 8 is going to feel like a thick band that's a size 7. And black is a mournful color for a wedding, its the same concept as not wearing black on Easter. I think black is totally fine. My wife was hurt beyond measure but the women in the family were pissed. The ones which our families/guests were requesting are for formal wear with lace/beading/sparkle. If you don't have a suit, as a man, you need to get one immediately. I would estimate that about 80-85% of the women wear black dresses to formal weddings where I live. Add some bling and cute shoes, maybe a colourful purse and you’re good. It’s classic and elegant. In my culture, red is the bridal colour. I also think the couple getting married matters. Wanted something with great visual texture. Will it be rude if I wore jeans ? I feel weird wearing suit pants; it’s not about looks, it’s about how they feel. Extension_Dream_3412. A band that is 1mm-3mm wide, which is considered thin, is going to feel about . yamfries2024. And don't wear a black waistcoat or suit. Black is absolutely acceptable for reception. I suspect the wardrobe department chose a pantsuit because they wanted an outfit that could shift seamlessly from wedding to family spokeswoman. To make it feel more summer, you could add a pop of color with all your accessories. I probably wouldn't wear black to a formal wedding overseas, like in the UK they tend towards more traditional ceremonies. However, avoid businessy tie patterns. Everyone should own a black dress and rock the black dress. It could have some fun elements but you don’t wanna go too crazy, you don’t want it to compete with the dress pattern. I think the shoes aren’t formal enough for a wedding. Wearing black for the wedding as a guest is like being passive-aggressive showing your disapproval of the marriage. Green. Assuming that you're not extremely close to/family of the people getting married: Black suit and tie with white shirt is funeral attire. Dictating his clothes is probably not a good idea. There used to be an etiquette for formal attire at a wedding and black - like white - is considered inappropriate. Saying wearing black to a wedding isn't appropriate, as traditionally black attire is for funerals. Essentially the rule is about not showing up looking like your mourning the loss of your little girl/boy. It's common. Black is fine usually unless it's mother of the bride or groom. People will assume you are there for ruining the wedding or has some past grudges. He and his bride (25F) had a relatively small outdoor wedding, less than 100 guests. Welcome to r/mensfashion, your go-to subreddit for all things related to men's fashion and attire…. I wore a little black dress to a wedding and was told by both the bride and another friend who was also planning a wedding that it was fine. • 3 yr. I've worn black dresses to four weddings, it's a popular choice if you're under 40. No you do not need to wear black (though you certainly can). The dinner jacket is the most important part of your tuxedo. Don't wear an all white dress. The lace in such a light color photographing like this is way too wedding dress ish to risk at a wedding. 5. ETA: Just saw that OP can borrow a tux from a friend. I had cocktail dresses but ended up going through a lot of stress to choose a brand new black tie-ish dress. I love seeing other brides thinking outside the box! Black wedding dresses are some of my favorites, and yours is absolutely beautiful. A black tie event should be in the evening, and it doesn't only refer to the dress code. Winter wedding- yes. Further, although in Christian weddings the bride is supposed to wear white, in Hindus, a woman Wearing it to a wedding can be seen as dramatic or inappropriate, like if you’re the MOB and you’re big mad your son is marrying someone kind of vibes. On her wedding day she had like 5 aunt's (mom's cousins) show up to her wedding in head to toe black. With the right accessories a black dress is very appropriate at any wedding. Wear shoes that you can walk or stand in. A great option! My mom (67, Northeastern US) does not wear black to weddings, because for her generation, it connotes a sort of passive aggressive disapproval of the marriage- you're dressing like you're going to a funeral, which can be read as a dramatic way of conveying what a tragedy you think this wedding is. Tie is black : r/mensfashion. Unless the wedding is emo/gothic themed, I wouldn’t wear black to a wedding. Wear glitzy jewelry. i just want to wear a black dress. white tie attire (havent seen this in sg before) > tuxedo with bowtie (black tie attire) > suit with same material blazer and pants + tie. I feel like you can just say "if you don't want to accidentally match the bride, don't wear a black dress to the wedding" and people will get the message without you explicitly asking them not to. Include in the dress code to wear pastels and light colors. It is definitely not normal in my area (Midwest/ northeast) for guests to wear anything in the “white” category. nope0000001. Black isn't really a thing for funerals here anymore, though. Good news is you can wear your tiara and gloves! Because white tie is the most formal dress code, “a woman can wear a grand ballgown and opulent jewels,” Chertoff says. AITA for wearing white to a wedding? Not the A-hole. Black is generally a funeral suit, so I would be against it, however I would ask the bride and groom if black is acceptable for their wedding and fits the dress code. I don't see the issue with swapping for something lighter, but if you won't be comfortable then just wear the black one. Some black outfits to have a funeral vibe so use your best judgement. Depends on the wedding season and time of the day and how formal it is. I love it. But, this is really from where the whole white dress originated - Queen Victoria. I’m using dresses from David’s Bridal as examples because most of you are American and this is a brand that most of you have access to. 4) Your friend chills out and you attend his wedding no problem in your suit. You look stunning! From there I see 4 options: Your friend pays for your tux rental. Instead of banning dark, encourage light. It’s the most flattering and elegant. “Women should avoid cocktail-style dresses or anything that I don’t get all the hate about wearing black to a wedding. People need to leave the brides alone at their wedding. I can't imagine that every other person will rent a freakin tuxedo. 3) Men can look good in black pants, white jacket. Think of it as a blank canvas to adorn. [deleted] • 11 yr. It’s a beautiful dress but a lot of bridal stuff is champagne now so it’s just risky. And your BF will need to wear a tux. (There are other cultures where it’s also not appropriate but I am less familiar with them!) In North America, though, black to a formal or black tie wedding is usually fine. Italian - yes black is always acceptable at weddings for my family and at funerals- 90 percent still wear all black- based in New York. ADMIN MOD. Went with the tie, thanks ! 117K subscribers in the mensfashion community. In the UK, a black suit with a colourful tie is acceptable wedding attire. The only times to avoid is wedding and some of the religious pre-wedding festivities. Wear your suit and a tie and nice shoes. edit: unless it's a hippie wedding and they've specifically said "no suits". Black suits are actually more appropriate at an evening wedding than at work. I'd rather not have to buy a new dress in a color I don't frequently wear, but if it's taboo to wear black to weddings I'll respect that. For women it is not as clear cut, but would usually mean a formal dress, floor length. We will begin with the jacket. > suit with different material between blazer and pants + tie. Obviously if it's a daytime outdoor wedding you may want to lighten it up a bit but for a typical evening indoor wedding black is 100% acceptable. It's summertime. I think it’s it’s a formal nighttime wedding it’s fine. If you have any friends who are the type to only wear black, then you might not expect them to change, but you could make sure/expect they aren't wearing something vv bridal looking! Yeah I'm trying to figure out what to wear to a cocktail attire wedding where the ceremony is at 11am and cocktail hour doesn't start till 330. It's literally the most formal dress code there is (not counting white tie). It says you don't own a dress shirt. Imo you need to go classic like a sling back pump. Black Tie. Midwestern / East coast person here. •. both of those would be somewhat inappropriate, so some people just avoid black. but traditions are changing and it really depends on the couple's preferences. Tbh I'd just wear the black suit. 2) Him wearing white and you wearing white still makes white special on your big day. In England it is considered very bad luck to wear black to a wedding. You borrow the money for the tux rental and pay your friend back later. But it also depends on how much you care. Have fun! Black tie consists of a few basic pieces: the jacket, the waist covering, the shirt, the pants, the neckwear, and the shoes. I’ve read some posts on Reddit where people are very anti jeans at their events. Wouldn’t do it, no reason to try and be extra fashionable or unconventional at somebody else’s wedding. I’ve seen a few black dresses at Irish weddings so it’s not really an issue here. Black tie should have top shelf open bar, live music, plated dinner, valet service - basically the best service. In many places wearing black to a wedding is a bit of a no anyway. Nowadays I just wear comfortable trousers and a shirt open at the neck. WITH a train!! Bride is on the left in the bottom photo. • 5 yr. I (27F) have a friend (25F) that just got married last Saturday. It's the color of the people getting married and so it is still an extra special thing. Also pay attention to the venue! There's nothing weird about wearing white to a wedding at all. There, since black is worn for funerals, it is considered bad if you wear a black dress to a wedding. If you want to wear them, I’d opt out for a longer dress. Reply reply. The invites said the acceptable colors were fuschia and sky blue. I think it’s fine, especially if the wedding is a spring/summer or garden/tea theme. US funerals have evolved away from everyone wearing black and many times those attending are requested to wear happy colors in honor of the deceased. The more surface area touching your skin, the tighter the ring will feel. Think deep red, emerald or hunter green, eggplant purple, etc. ago. Because the neckline is so pretty on that dress. That man was like a father to her since my mother was a single mother. I did not look like I was in mourning. Black/very dark grey suit with a colourful tie is very formal business. Discuss it with the bride and groom, perhaps they do not adhere to tradition or have another dresscode. I felt absolutely awful because my wedding was being interrupted by them making scenes. It is perfect. It’s a nighttime wedding and the dress code is black-tie optional. It’s a bit dramatic. 2. People dress for the time and season. Wear a white dress shirt. if you're concerned, it might be a good idea to ask the couple (or someone close to them) about their feelings on this. Black was considered an unlucky color in Indian tradition, and the bride and her immediate family would avoid wearing it. My friend is South Asian (not Indian) and she decided to wear a red traditional dress for her wedding. Do you know anyone in wedding or family of bride that you could ask what women are wearing or dress code that could be cocktail to formal - I'd go with a long dress since the reception is an evening event unless you find out that there is a specific dress code I'd say it will be either cocktail (tea length or formal (floor length dress ) (black She doesn't know that wearing black to a bachelorette party is really common now. Don't wear white because only the bride wears white (if she decides to wear a white dress). AITA for wearing white to my wedding? Not the A-hole. Friends wedding photos that will never see the light of day. The bride gave you express permission to wear the dress. Especially if it’s daytime. yiranaini. 13. I recently got married to the love of my life, J. Wedding tonight- wearing black and white, do i go tie or no tie? Tie is black. Jun 14, 2023 ยท Whereas wearing black to a wedding might have been once been discouraged, that's certainly no longer the case, according to Jacquelyn Aleece, owner and founder of The Wedding Plan & Company. However, wearing black to an Indian wedding signifies that you are bringing bad luck to the couple. If either of them is from a more old school or traditional family, don't wear black. The only time this doesn’t apply is someone wearing white on purpose. When I lived in the southern US, people thought I was crazy for wearing a black dress with pink flowers. If you need to ask, it’s not appropriate. ago • Edited 5 yr. You can try a traditional wedding tie, usually silver and black in a micro-pattern. Darker colors are a safer choice, since you don't know the couple. tryingmydarndestly. Perhaps bring some colour in with your hat/fascinator, a nice scarf, or jewellery. I also recommend you wear your hair up. Big difference between a pretty dress and a gown. Grey will make popping out color way easier. But there's no cultural taboo over it. $95 is not exactly a black tie gown budget. I’m planning on wearing this dress but I’m afraid that 1) black is not appropriate for a wedding, 2) this might not meet the dress code, and 3) it might show off too much skin for the more traditional folks in attendance? White is very symbolic of a bride in American culture. NTA Ultimately it's up to you, and it's doubtful anyone will care. As others have said it’s probably too formal for most weddings. It is the largest and most integral piece of your formal evening wear. Black is seen as a formal color. 36. Black is such a go-to color for people that I doubt you’ll be the only one wearing it. According to the Emily Post Institute, (Emily Post was the original doyenne of etiquette. It really depends on the other people around though. Where I am (Midwestern US) it's not really a thing. In my head I see you with a black slingback pump like an amina muddi that has the gem detail in the front or a black pump with a colorful detail, but predominantly black. So it depends on where you live I guess. This is a personal one but don't go too sexy, I try to always keep it grandma appropriate. I did this because I was used to working for embassies and high profile events and a suit was expected even if it was sweltering. One wedding has bridesmaids in black cocktail dresses, at another a few of us in the immediate family were wearing black and we all matched. Anyone wearing white is doing so to pull attention to themselves or to disrespect the bride. Furs are acceptable. That said, if I knew the bride was wearing black, I’d avoid it, personally. If you must wear black, always accessories with other colors to balance it out. Contrast this with ONLY the bride is wearing white, not her bridesmaids or any of the female guests. pants with tie should be the minimum, but many in SG dont wear necktie to weddings. So I read that the wedding is in the Bahamas, he doesn’t have to wear a suit at all! A pair of nice slacks, linen or khaki in a coordinating color or not and could be black! (It’s just slacks!) then have fun with the shirt! Could be any of the colors in your dress or white linen! Does not need to be long sleeved! And yes, I would wear this to a wedding. I wore a black dress to my cousins wedding with some bright heals (red to be exact) and pops of red color for my jewelry. r/mensfashion • Finally chose the suit I'm going to get married in this month. It is basically showing you disapprove of the wedding or wish bad things on the couple getting married. I'd go with a light scarf, different colored shoes, purse, hat, etc, just try not to have more than 60-70% of your outfit be black. (My goddaughter, on the other hand, is making ALL of us wear black, formal gowns for her wedding. Plus, like you said, guest vs higher up member of the wedding party. Generally, its a faux pas in most areas of Canada/USA. Other details: there will be about 300 guests. I (18F) have an older brother (26M) who got married this past weekend. I would wear the black dress and some bright color shoes. I’ve heard a lot of people say not to wear red to a wedding but it’s mostly about not wanting to upstage the bride and red being a “sexy” color. Traditionally, there are some "forbidden" colors such as white, beige, nude or black, even depending on the area there are those who consider red to be in bad taste at a wedding. Black, no. I was gonna wear that with a shirt, tie, formal shoes, and jeans. Reply reply more replyMore replies. We all have eyes and scrutinize outfits to brunch let alone a formal wedding. I'm sure it wasn't common when she was your age, so when she sees entire groups of people wearing black she thinks of funerals. At his age, your boyfriend should understand as long as the bridal party doesn't find it in poor taste, someone else's superstition is irrelevant. sy aj ve ym mq xj ue zp ga ch